Wednesday, October 5, 2011

It's OK to HATE the world today.... long as you forgive it tomorrow.  :)

I'm joining the rest of Alex J. Cavanaugh's IWS groupers today, because it's just been one of those weeks, you know?

For the most part, I try to stay really upbeat and positive.  Anyone who's been following my blog for awhile - at least, I hope you'll agree with that statement?  (If you don't, can I bribe you with a cookie?)

But, it's hard sometimes.  I am ALWAYS my own worst critic.  I think I, well...pretty much suck, most of the time.  I can get the best critiques in the world one day, and then turn around and find myself in tears the next day, cursing every darn word I tap/write out on my MS.  I ride this emotional roller-coaster FAR too often.  I'm always sure that maybe - I'm just not that good.

The thing is ~ this is no way to live life.  This line of thinking will NOT get me closer to my dream.  I KNOW this - and, yet - I still have those off days.  Perhaps, aspiring writers are just predisposed to doubt.  I do realize how foolish my doubt is.  And I'll continue to persevere.  I'll keep writing because it's what I LOVE to do!  I know it's never too late.  And I've got this wonderful writing community at my fingertips, if I need you.

I don't know that too many people know this, but my doubts and my fears kept me from really writing for YEARS!  Since I've been blogging, I've met so many wonderful, positive, inspiring people!  You guys keep me going.  Really.  You do.  So, I just wanted to let you know that if you've ever had an off day like I have, you're not alone.  And also just wanted to say, "Thank you."  :)


Nicki Elson said...

Good point - we ALL have those days, so it's no reflection on ability. During the months and months while writing my first story I told myself every single night as I went to bed that I was being ridiculous and should stop. Then Morning Me would tell Night Me to shove off, and that's the only way I kept going.

Summer Ross said...

I am my own worst critic as well. This blogging community of writers is truly a great inspiration. There are so many of out there its hard for me to feel alone in my writing adventures. You are an amazing person.

Jamie Burch said...

I'm so happy you never gave up on your dream and continue to chase it! Every once in a while I have to bitch slap my inner critic. It used to drive me crazy, but with time and lots of writing it's learning to listen to me. One day you will control that nasty inner critic in you.

I agree! This blogging community is amazing. It brings so many of us like-minded folk together every day and offers inspiration and encouragment. I don't know what I'd do without it. Glad you're a part of it! :)

Meredith said...

The blogosphere really is an awesome form of support, isn't it? I'm so glad I found it--being an insecure writer on your own would be awful!

Carol Riggs said...

Ha, yes, join the rollercoaster that is the writer's life. At least we're all on the ride together, yes?

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

You can do it! Pour that emotion into your work and it will rock.

Michael Offutt said...

I support you. Never falter and conquer those words!

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

I usually think stuff I write is lacking but after I set it aside and go back later I feel better about it. If others are telling you good stuff, just believe it.

Marta Szemik said...

Donea, you stole the words from my mouth. I'm exactly the same way, but as soon as that new chapter is done, as soon as that first positive comment is heard the fears go away. Heads up and keep writing!

Beth said...

I think we're all our own critic. Just keep writing ;)

Madeleine said...

Oh I so hear you. My doubts and fears kept me from writing for years too, but they can't keep the writing at bay for long when it's in your psyche.

Michael Di Gesu said...



I have read several of your excerpts and entries in blog fests and you, my dear friend, are an amazing writer!


You write with sensitivity, passion, and about all, HEART!

Your words are felt. If you can touch a reader''s heart then you ARE a talented writer. AND YOU HAVE. SO THERE!

GET OVER IT! We all love and respect your talent. SO you must love and respect your own.

So whenever you have doubts. Remember what I've said.

Jeremy Bates said...

just stopping by from Alex Cavanaugh's blog... on the Insecure Writer's Support Tour!
concerning ur post, i think u have to be your own worst critic.... because if uve analyzed and ripped apart ur writing as much as u could, then put it back together, well, uve done ur job as a writer

"Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do"

-Steve Jobs

S. L. Hennessy said...

Hey, new follower and fellow insecure writer here. I just want to say, I am absolutely my own worst critic as well. It's hard to get past my own fears long enough to let someone ELSE give me critique. But that's why this group is so wonderful. It's a way for us to share our similar feelings and woes, and help each other move past them.

Anyways, I'm really glad I stopped by. Great blog!